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Cam in the Kitchen: Poetry Tea

I recently came across this idea for a poetry tea on Pinterest. I thought it sounded like a lot of fun and told Cam we were going to try it out. Here is a link to the post that I found through Pinterest. We had so much fun that we’re going to make a it a Wednesday tradition. 

IMG_6215I actually started building anticipation on Monday when we started looking in a few stores for a teapot. I have kettle, but that isn’t exactly an efficient way to brew tea (it makes too much and the pot is really hot). It turns out a decent (and decently priced) ceramic teapot is really hard to find! While we keep looking, we’re using the tea kettle. I brew tea at the stove and pour into cups. 

On Wednesday, after lunch and before nap time, we brewed a pot of tea, put some cookies on a plate and found a poetry book to share. Cam pushed our chairs close together and we sat down to sip tea and read. It worked beautifully and Cam loved it. IMG_6216It was relaxing and lovely. At the end of the month I will create a list of our favorite poetry books and link to it here. 

It doesn’t have to be complicated. We’ll have whatever is on hand for a snack. We just read the poetry. I suppose if Cam wanted to talk about the poems we could, but right now we’re just listening to them. I hope eventually she will take over reading some of them because learning to read poetry aloud is a good skill to practice for public speaking, for fluency, and for understanding how the spoken word works. 

On Pets, Life and Death

This week we had to have one of our birds put down. It was, obviously, a sad event in our house, however I actually believe this is one of the most important lessons offered by having pets. 

Birds are very companionable animals and we love having them around for the company and for the breath of life they bring to our house. There is always squawking and singing, fluttering and rummaging going on. They do ridiculously funny things and also a lot of irritating things. But they’re our friends and family. I think this connection we have with these creatures is really important for Cam and I think it helps her develop and empathy for other animals, for the environment and for other people. She practices kindness with them daily by gently touching them or by learning to think of how they feel when she bangs on their cage. We recently went out and bought each bird a new toy and she was so excited that when we came home, she ran up to their cages and began telling them all about the toys she picked out.

Having pets also teaches her about caring for and being responsible for another being. At this point I feel she is too young to be in charge of any of the birds, but she sees me feed and water them everyday. She helps clean out their cages and pick out new toys for them. She also helps us interact with them and keep them company because as birds they need our company as much, or more, than we need theirs.  

But then there is the hard, hard conversation about death. Cam kept asking if Mango was going to be okay, clearly not grasping the finality of his death. But seeing it and experiencing it now will help her come to understand. We used the opportunity to talk about how we made an effort to ensure Mango had a happy, healthy life while we owned him (he was a rescue that came to us three years ago). We talked about what we liked about him and what we’ll miss.

Death throws life into sharp relief and I hope by beginning to understand it Cam will learn to live. She will want to do great things with her life and appreciate all the wonderful things she has. I hope it teaches her not to be afraid, either of the inevitable or of living. I hope it teaches her how to grieve and to know that despite the sadness she can be happy again. I hope it teaches her that a life with meaning has sadness in it and that this makes the good all the more sweet. This all seems a tall order for the death of one small bird, but it was the first friend she has lost and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to think she will take pieces of this away from it all.  

Activity In the Hive: Baby Chicks

We are a family of pets, but not your usual ones. There are no cats or dogs here, nor will there be anytime soon. We have rabbits and a turtle, exotic birds and fish, and chickens and ducks. We originally got the chickens for fun and we haven’t been disappointed. They are ridiculous and most of us could watch them run around doing silly things for hours. Cam loves to chase them around the yard and pick them up. We are also pleased to get the most delicious eggs from them. We are not big egg eaters, but I haven’t had to buy eggs in a couple years and our neighbors and coworkers are always happy to receive a dozen fresh eggs.

About a week and a half ago we went to the feed store to get a new batch of chickens. This is the third time we’ve had baby chicks and I think there is something incredibly magical and special about having such new life in the house. It’s an incredible lesson for Cam in how fragile, delicate, and precarious life is. When we buy the chicks we buy several, both for company and because there is the distinct possibility that one or more will die. We have been lucky that this has not happened, but I think if it did (and even the discussion about the possibility) is a good experience for Cam. I know we have this innate desire to protect our children from all that is bad and scary and sad in the world, but I would rather Cam was exposed to some of that in a safe environment and that we show her how to cope well with it. The thing is, she lives in this world and she will experience these let downs and emotions and it’s important that she knows how to process those emotions and move through them without getting lost in them. I know the experience of a small chick dying while she is only three will not give her profound understanding of death or sadness, but it’s a step toward that understanding and a part of her long learning process. 

The baby chicks also grow incredibly fast and are surprisingly self-sufficient and capable even at a day old. It’s an amazing thing to see them get bigger so quickly and to marvel at how complex life is. It never ceases to amaze us that they just know how to be upon emerging from the egg and with no parental support. 

It doesn’t hurt that they are adorable either (click the image to see it larger):

New chicks