Why We’re Homeschooling. All the reasons.

Update 6/26/2018: After being threatened in private by the head of Sacramento Country Day School (you can read more about this in another post) I changed this post. I am restoring it today after finding out about some other things going on there. THIS STUFF HAPPENED TO ME AND MY CHILD AND THESE ARE MY VERY VALID FEELINGS ABOUT BOTH HOW WE WERE TREATED AND THE ADMINISTRATIONS RESPONSE TO HOW WE WERE TREATED. THIS NOW SPANS TWO ADMINISTRATIONS. 

This coming school year we’ll need to fill out our affidavit that basically says we’re homeschooling. After lots of reflection, thought, research, hemming and hawing, and more thought, we’re doing it. Here’s why:

1. Our abysmal experience applying to the school my husband and I work at (and are alumni of). Never did get an apology or any acknowledgement that what happened was not okay.* So I definitely won’t be giving them my money. The admissions office didn’t even ask us this year if we’d be applying. I don’t know if they thought they were snubbing us for being royally pissed last year or if they just don’t give a crap. Either way, that looks really bad if you can’t even treat your alumni and employees properly. I also happen to know from a friend who is currently applying that they are struggling to get the time of day and considerate treatment from the admissions office too. 

1a. Private school is expensive and not only would it make things tight, it would rule out another baby and would ensure that I need to go back to work so I could get medical benefits. Because tuition is the same price as what we pay for our medical insurance. Plus, at this point I wouldn’t consider it money well spent considering our options. 

2. Our local public school is full this year. I considered them for two reasons. We have an incredibly diverse population at the school (that draws primarily from our neighborhood) and I want Cam to meet and make friends with diverse people, not just the rich white kids that go to private school. We don’t have to go to our public school to do that (all she has to do is walk outside our house because our neighborhood is very diverse), but it was an appealing part of the idea of the school. Also, they have a half-day kindergarten program. Unfortunately, next school year they would push her into first grade because of her age and she is too young. It’s that cut-off date quandary again without the options. 

3. They don’t teach what needs to be taught in any school I’ve encountered. Even with alternative methods they still skirt around the content/skills that needs to be taught. We’re going to focus a lot on anti-bias and social justice in our family for the next four years and beyond and I have not found a school that will do that. But more than that, I haven’t found a school close enough and good enough that steers away from traditional philosophy. Many schools claim to base their education on non-traditional models, but they still maintain that kind of thinking and never get far enough away from it for my preferences. 

From here on out, I probably won’t be posting here very often. I’m working on reviewing diverse books for my library book blog. I haven’t quite figured out what it is I want to do here, although I do really like popping in to talk about books and what is going on in our house. But after the election that all feels very hollow. I am going to try and share booklists and resources you can use in homeschooling that work towards the goal of anti-bias education and fighting racism, sexism and xenophobia. I would point you toward my library blog, but that isn’t really geared for parents. I can tweak content I post there or create new content that speaks to how parents can use resources and I will do that as the mood strikes me. 

*I realized I never did share what the aftermath was beyond saying the admissions department wanted to do some role playing. That never happened and they pretty quickly went into damage-control mode and played the blame game. They took zero responsibility for what had happened and never admitted to being sorry. It was a lot of covering their asses and making it out that we would just have to suck it up and deal with shit behavior from the screener if we wanted Cam going to the school. I have two words for that: fuck you. Also since that experience and telling people Cam won’t be going to the school we’ve had people in the administration tell us they think it looks bad that she won’t be. I have the same two words for them: fuck you. That is not my problem and maybe you should consider fixing the admissions office and experience instead of trying to convince me I should pay for shit service and treatment. What happened was not okay. At all and I’m certainly not going to sacrifice my principles and money so the school can look good. 

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